Where do you feel the most like yourself?

I use ask this to myself many times throughout the day. I tried to find somewhere that makes me feel most comfortable and at first, I seek for certain place. But I realized it’s not like that at all.

If you asked me “Where do you feel the most like yourself?” right now, I would say “Anywhere if I’m with the people I feel comfortable with”. I think it’s the people that changes how we feel and think about things around us. I think family and friends do those wonderful job of making you feel like you can truly be yourself and easy to be around.

It might be many people, or just a few people but when you have those people around you, it’s like bringing light into the darkness, they change the whole mood around you. They show love, respect, and they accept you for who you are.

Maybe you are one of those people who feel the most like yourself when you are by yourself or it changes every once in a while and that is totally okay if you know that is the best for you. I think knowing about yourself and what you want is important because you know what to do when you are stressed out.

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Crocheting

I’ve been crocheting for last few weeks and thought it would be a good topic to blog about. Personally, I think crocheting is easier than knitting because crocheting requires only one needle where as knitting requires two.

So to hold to crochet hook, use your thumb and index finger to hold the hook like a pencil by the middle which has a indent for the finger to hold better. The hook should be slightly turned towards you. Click here for the video.

To start crocheting, first thing you need to know is how to do a slip knot. To do this, twist and loop the yarn over the hook, wrap the yarn around the hook and pull.  Click here for the video.

Now next thing you are going to do is chain stitch. Basically, all you need to do is a yarn over and pull it into the slip knot you have made. After that, you are just doing the same thing but into the chain stitch you made right before.  Keep practice to make the size all the same. The tension in your hand is very important. Do not hold the yarn too tightly because it would be hard to other stiches later. Click here for the video.

Finally, the single and double crochet! You should be able to see the v line at the front side of your chain stitches. For the single crochet, you are going to put the hook into one side of the chain you made and do a yarn over, pull it out of the first loop. Do another yarn over and pull it out of all the loops (which should be two). One thing you should keep in mind is that you are putting the hook into the second chain when you are starting a new row. Click here for the video. For the double crochet, you just need to do a yarn over before you put the hook into the chain and you would have three loops to go through for the final step.

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Journaling

In the past, I have wrote many journals but not really about my thoughts or feelings. It would always be what I did everyday (which was really boring) and I didn’t know why people would write journals since it felt like waste of time.

About a year ago, I started to have more deep thoughts (okay, I am a teenager…) and emotions and as many of you know, it’s hard to keep track of all those things and what is going on in your daily life. I decided it would be a good idea to keep a journal and look back at myself.

Writing down your thoughts is not only good for remembering but for getting more organized and you can understand yourself more clearly. It can help with your stress, anxiety, and other mental health issues you might be going through.

I wish I started writing journals earlier in my life because it is really fun to look back at myself. You get to know more about yourself and remember all the good memories. I think journaling is self-reflecting time as well, I find myself writing out my day and some problems I faced but when I think about it as I write, most of the times I see the problem in the opposite point of the view and I get to understand others more too.

I think getting to write about my deep thoughts would probably be my favourite reason to keep a journal. It feels so good to just put my thoughts outside of my head but know that nobody is going to judge about it. I think it’s totally normal to have those thoughts you don’t want to share with anyone but sometimes, keeping it inside can be hard!

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Musical Instruments

I love playing instruments and it’s one of my favourite hobbies. Playing instruments can reduce stress, good for building patience and perseverance, develops music appreciation, cultivates creativity, uses almost every part of the brain, strengthens your immune system, increases time-management skills, increases memory capability, and many other things that are good for you.

There are several types of musical instruments which are classified by how they are played. There are wind, stringed, keyboard, percussion, and electronic. They are all very unique and I would like to try out some string bowed instruments like violin and cello. I’ve played few wind, keyboard, percussion, and guitar but I am so fascinated how the string bowed instruments work. The instruments I’ve played always had marks to guide where to press to make different sounds but violin and cello doesn’t so I think it would be a great challenge to try out and see if I can do it.

Playing instrument is a great thing to do for yourself. It helps to calm down and be unique. It’s really hard to not get judged by people when you are surrounded by them so when I feel down, I just go to my room and play music. Great thing is, music has so many different genre you can play s0 that you can change what you are playing when your mood does.

Instruments are such a big part of my life. I think it helps to express my feelings and thoughts more without having to talk. If you want to learn more about musical instruments, click here!

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Culture Shock

If you haven’t heard what culture shock is before, it’s experience a person can have when they are moved to different cultural environment than the one’s own. I don’t really think about this often but it sounded like a good topic to write about so today, I’ll be telling you some of my own experiences. Keep in mind that I’m not trying to make one culture sound better than the other but just telling my experiences.

One of the first things I’ve notice was how informal things went when they should be. (In my opinion) Even in meetings, people would be talking about private life and topics that are non-related. Most of the times, that is really rude and something you should never do in Korea.

Another would be talking about things you do well. It’s really hard for most Koreans to accept compliments like ‘you are so good at ___’ or ‘that is amazing’ and talk good about themselves because in our perspective, it would be counted as bragging or thinking that you are better than the people around you. Something I notice about Canadian culture was they say good things about themselves and denying the compliment is considered to be bragging or thinking that you are better than the people around you which is total opposite to Korean culture. This is something I still struggle with and I don’t think I’ll ever completely get rid of this habit…

It’s really hard to change how to react to the environment around you and I still struggle with lots of my habits. But for some of them, I would like to keep it because I think it’s good to have some of those habits to have. If you want to learn more about culture shocks, click here for more information. Thanks for reading my blog today!

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Defining Friendship (4th Writer’s Workshop)

I think true friendship is one of the most important relationships in a person’s life. What is true friendship? I think it is millions of little things put together. It is not same for everyone, but similar in many ways. 

True friends are people that you can be yourself with. True friends make you feel seen and heard at all times. They are people that you can trust with your deepest secrets and you can be totally honest with your friends without worrying that they will judge you. When you find someone you can be yourself around, that’s rare. That’s peace. That’s love. That’s worth holding onto.” (Unknown) When you can truly be yourself around a person, you feel comfort, genuine happiness, and peace.  

When you are with your friends, even in complete silence, you can feel comfort. You know that they are always there for you, even in the darkest time of your life. Maybe not with you, but always for you. They stick up for you and always have your back. “A friend is someone who helps you up when you’re down, and if they can’t, they lay down beside you and listen.” (Winnie the Pooh) If someone is your friend, they will always be there, even when you don’t realize it. 

True friends don’t just walk out of your life one day just because of who you are or what you are going through. They are the ones who share joy when you feel it, the one that pops up in your head when something happens, cries together, and supports you through the hard times. They love you no matter what. “A friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you just the same.” (Unknown)They don’t care how crazy you are, they always love you. 

I think friendship isn’t about people you grew up with but about those who walked into your life and proved that they are there for you no matter what. When it comes to friendship or any other relationship, it doesn’t matter how many years you’ve spent with them. It’s about understanding, being there for each other, caring, and proving that they are your friends. “Friendship isn’t about whom you’ve known the longest. It’s about who came and never left your side.” (Unknown) 

True friends are also one of the best counselors and helpers. They wish the best for you. They know what you should do when you don’tFriend is one of those people in your life that leads you back to the truth. “A best friend is someone who loves you when you have forgotten how to love yourself.” (Unknown) 

Most of all, true friends leave a mark in your life. There are so many people and there will be lots of whom you don’t remember after a while, but a true friend is always there, in a special part of your heart. They are the ones that you’ll talk about when someone asks you about your friends. They are remembered with all the best memories you keep in your heart. “Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave and impossible to forget” (G. Randolf). 

Letters

Writing letter is something that we nowadays don’t do often. It’s considered ‘outdated’ or ‘old fashioned’ way to socialize with people since most young people now simply text when they need to talk to someone. It’s easier, quicker, and doesn’t require much time. But which one is more meaningful and better? I think letters are.

When you write letters, you naturally take more time to think through of what you are going to write. You spend much more time for writing which means you have to put some efforts in it. I saw some people who thinks letters are just old and ‘not cool’ but I think that it’s a wonderful way to connect and be able to talk.

Letters are personal and just writing it shows how much you care about the people who receive them. Handwritten letters are such a great gift to give to anyone. You can also add some personal arts like drawings at the blank parts in your letter. It would be even more sweet!

Most of all, (I think everyone would agree to this) when you get letters from someone, it feels more special and powerful than texts. You can keep them and go back to read them again. I have a box for just letters and cards I get and it’s really calming to go back and read them. It’s great for looking back at your past and feel the people’s warm words.

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What Ifs

Hello! I hope everyone had a good winter break! As you can see from the title, I thought I would talk about “what if” stuff that we often think and talk about.

I think about the past, what I did wrong and how I could’ve done better so much that sometimes, it’s really stressful and I think most people struggle with this “what if” questions in their life. It’s good to look back at yourself and see what you did wrong to do the right thing next time but don’t linger around too long in your mistakes. When we do that, often it leads to more problems and stress. “As long as you feel pain, you’re still alive. As long as you make mistakes, you’re still human. And as long as you keep trying, there’ still hope.” – Susan Gale

Learning to move on from those mistakes are another thing we have to practice. Personally, I think the hardest person to forgive is yourself. We learn to be forgiving to others, helping, and other kindness acts but sometimes, we need to do that to ourselves. “Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profundity. Kindness in giving creates love.” – Lao Tzu

I think “what if” questions comes up when we analyze our problems too much. We think about past and future so much when we should be thinking about the present, right now. This is a quote that I found and we should all remember this(it’s Korean quote so it was translated) “I am happy when my heart is in the present. I regret when my heart is in the past, and I feel anxious when it is in the future.”(마음이 현재에 있어야 행복하다. 마음이 과거에 있으면 후회하고 미래에 있으면 불안해한다.)- Unknown

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My Friends from Korea (3rd Writer’s Workshop)

Most of you probably had ‘that friend’ that you remember from your childhood. Not much drama, care-free. I find that plenty of them move apart as we grow up with moving and how their personalities have changedToday, I am going to tell you about some of my friends from Korea. 

Before I go in too deep, there are some things you need to keep in mind about South Korea. South Korea is a very small country so cities like Seoul (where I liveddo not have much space to do activities in front of your housethe majority of the population live in apartmentsSeoul is nothing like a countryside or small town and it rarely has houses with backyard. It has mainly tall buildings that are fitted closely together. Since I lived in an apartment, I did not have a backyard, so I usually played soccer at the playground, school field, or at a park.  

As some of you might know, I love soccer. It all started when I was about seven years old. My parents knew how being active is important during childhoodSo, my dad started teaching me basic soccer skills like passing, dribbling, and shooting.  

One day, a family moved to the same apartment as us, so we became good neighbours. They had a son that is same age as I am so we played soccer together pretty much every day. 

He is an extrovert and someone who is easy to talk to. One of the great things about having male friends is that there is not as much drama in the friendship as us girls have. When I was young, I had a bit of hard time hanging out with girls. After I found out how easy it was to hang out with boys (which is mostly playing sports), I was happier. Of course, I had girl friends, but I was so crazy about soccer that I spent more time playing soccer with boys. 

One of the best memories I had with my male friend was when we played soccer in summer. We were so tired from the hot temperature (which was around 30°C) but still played for hoursI think it is also one of my craziest memory. 

Now, since I do not want to leave you thinking that I just had male friends, I am going to tell you about one of my best friends who is girl. 

When I was about seven years old, a girl moved to Korea from China. I first met her in my kindergarten class. She was quiet, so I went to her and started talking. She was not good at speaking Korean, but I thought she was a great person, so we became close and hung out. 

She is very funny and lightens up the mood around her, and opened up easily after we started being friends. She was almost like my long-lost best friend because we got close in such a short time. We became such good friends the moment we met. 

One of the memories that stands out the most is when we had a day that we walked around our neighbourhood and went to the playground. We got to know each other better by talking together. Just having her by my side made me happy. “We didn’t realize we were making memories. We just knew we were having fun.”(unknown) 

This makes me think about the present and how great it is, because this will all be memories that someday I will look back. I think we should think more about how good it is to be having this very second because we will look back at this moment someday, thinking about this time.